Just a Ramble

this is free-flow as it should be for thoughts like this. i've just realized something and i think i will type it now without edits and hopefully it will make sense tomorrow.

for the longest time i thought that if you could "read people" you could talk to people. i thought the ability to talk to people was very much the same as reading people.

but this is not true.

there is a subtle, yet distinct, difference between someone who can read people and someone who can talk to people.

be if their aura or their body language, whatever it is you read, it does not mean you know the words to choose and the sentences to form to woo said human.

it's like knowing all the rules and players of a basketball game intimately but still not having the ability to out-score kobe bryant.

and no matter how well a conversation goes when a talker talks it does not constitute the ability to read anyone. sometimes they may just be talking and perhaps that naive vulnerability is what charms people into responding appropriately and confusing the talker into thinking they've read someone.

i mentioned my troubles with the difference between shy and outgoing people in an earlier post and i suppose i had not yet come to this theory at that time. perhaps some shy people can read people so well it is in fact overwhelming and they are left wordless.

i'm starting to find a number of brilliant people-readers who are horribly shy and sometimes awkward in speech. yet they are infinitely more skilled at reading moods and feeling vibes than myself.

perhaps we who talk, and believe we read people, merely talk to people without concern of what the person's aura says.

those people respond and we talkers thinks we've read the person when all we've done is talked.

i need to re-work this idea.