Tony Bennett Started it

i'm not sure how san francisco made the top ten list of cities for single people. in my experience, all the best people are taken and the remainders are either crazy or have just gotten out of something serious-- meaning they are just a different kind of crazy.

i'll agree that san francisco has stylish, attactive residents, but if they're all taken or damaged that's not a whole lot more than masturbation fuel.

...not sure where i was going with that one.

i found a sheet of paper on the sidewalk that read, "san francisco is a gay man's disco."

interesting thing.

look, i've heard it put like this: in san francisco, you cannot consider the fact someone has a boyfriend a deal-breaker-- if you don't want to remain single, there may be some overlap.

and if you go by those rules (which a surprising number of people do), you're bound to create and receive more damage, thus perpetuating the crazy-single-person reputation.

i spent the majority of the other night chatting with the a coworker who had been conned into covering the late shift. she explained it is not easy for women to find dates. her complaint was nothing to do with a "gay man's disco", rather that men in the bay area simply do not ask women out on dates-- and actually, i remember reading that in the sfweekly as well.

she said a lot of her friends who had wanted to find a guy gave up trying and picked up yoga and full-time jobs and school and dog-walking and something for every minute of the day so they could keep their minds busy.

but in doing so, they designed themselves to be undateable. their compensating schedule made them unavailable to anyone who might ask them out.

and a guy can only take so many times of asking a girl out and hearing "sorry, i have this other thing" before he quits, too.

it'd an odd thing. there are single people of both genders just floating through the city, looking good, but completely afraid of each other due to previous damages.

i love san francisco and i think it's an amazing city, but i would never name it one of the top ten cities for single folk. i'd name it one of the top ten "cities that make you get really creative when it comes to surviving." or "cities where tourist need to take walking lessons before allowed into the public."

on a strange dating side note, everyone i've ever dated has had a first name that begins with j, k, l or m. and all but two were pisces. i don't if that means anything. maybe i need to stop dating pisces since it never seems to work out.

oh, but i will say this: if you're single and enjoy staying single, san francisco is a wonderful place with plenty of things to do and see that will make you almost forget about dating entirely. that's kind of nice.